SUPPORT

I wanted to take a few moments and review the past year and thank all the avenues and people for the support that they have given me.  This past 16 months has been an amazing journey for me.  I have seen the darkest hours and I have seen the brightest of hope.  I have seen how to put recovery into action and I have seen what it does if no action is taken.  I have and continue to be active in my rolls in recovery.  However, having so much support around me helps so much.

Yesterday I was working on my bike and had Jake over to help out.  We were discussing recovery and how others can get help.  Jake just rolled out a site and I encourage all to check it out.  it can be found at recoverywithjake.org  Sitting in my garage with a good friend and knowing that if I need him to help me through a tough time and that he will be there for me is huge.  I think that men in general feel so weak if we need to ask for help.  In recovery, I see this all the time.  Men falling down because they are simply not asking for help.  I understand that prayer and help from the Savior is the first place support should be sought from.  I also believe that the Lord placed each of us on the earth to help others and that he wants us to learn from these type of experiences.  If the Lord did not work through others then what is our purpose in creating bonds with each other?

I admit, when I was in my addiction I was too prideful to reach out for help.  I though I could handle it and that this was something only I could fix.  Wow, how wrong was I.  After nearly 16 months of sobriety I have realized that I have needed everyone and every resource to get to where I am.  My Mom and Dad have been there and will continue to be there for me.  I have felt their love and support from day one when I was sitting on their couch telling them everything that I had been through.  I am still so grateful for their reaction.  They wrapped me in their arms and told me that we will get through this.  My in-laws have been the same way.  Although I know they are still very hurt at the pain I have caused their daughter, I still feel love from them.  I know that at any time I could reach out to any of my family members and get support from them.  

All of the support group brothers that I have are more than amazing.  I have such great respect for those who are in recovery and still fight for freedom from addiction.  The bonds I create and maintain help me through each day of my life.  

The love of the Savior at times is tangible but is more frequently felt through others.  As I have been very blessed in my recovery I hope that I can be of support to others who are struggling or just be a good friend to those who are in need of a friend.  

Finding the right kind of support is critical.  I don't believe that anyone can recover from addiction without support from others.  I am so grateful for the support I continue to get and so I fight.  I will fight for the love and support of others and more importantly the love of my Savior.  

GRATITUDE

   

     First off I want to thank all of those who attended our Marriage Seminar whether in person or via web.  I was so grateful to see the room as full as it was.  I knew I was in a room filled with fellow fighters.  Brandon and I really appreciate all the support and love that we feel from you. So again a million thanks to you all.    
      
     Yesterday, our lesson in Young Women's was on gratitude, and I knew that I needed to write on that topic.  I'm sure its more for myself than for anything else.  The title of the lesson was "Why is it important to be grateful?"  I have on numerous occasions throughout the last ten months looked for reasons to be grateful in the circumstances that I am facing.  And although some days it is really hard to find them, they are there. President Monson says "When we encounter challenges and problems in our lives, it is often difficult for us to focus on our blessings. However, if we reach deep enough and look hard enough, we will be able to feel and recognize just how much we have been given."       
      
     It is very easy to look for reason to be grateful when things are going right for us in our lives, but what about the times when things are going terribly wrong?  I think that President Uchtdorf explained it well in his article Grateful in Any Circumstances where he says "Could I suggest that we see gratitude as a disposition, a way of life that stands independent of our current situation? In other words, I’m suggesting that instead of being thankful for things, we focus on being thankful in our circumstances—whatever they may be.  As I have said before, the circumstances we are in now, mold us into the person that we are supposed to be. I believe that there is beauty even in the ugliest of circumstances.  We just need to look for it.          
      
     Last night I was in one of those undesirable moments where it was just me and my thoughts.  Of course in those moments my mind takes me back to that dreadful email and the content it contained. As often as I try to push the images, and details that I received out, sometimes my mind freezes and I can't do much but sit there staring into oblivion sifting through those thoughts.  I was caught up in the  details of the things that went on with Brandon and my so called "friends".  The longer I was lingering on those particular thoughts the more hurt and sorrow I was drawing to myself.  I was trying to understand why he chose my "friends", and why my "friends" would do what they did to me?  During those moments I had the thought to look for the gratitude in that particular scenario.  Ha! Is there really anything to be grateful for there? I kept looking, and searching but found nothing......Until I sat down and started typing this post.  What I found was in the The Divine Gift of Gratitude talk by President Thomas S.Monson.  He said "This is a wonderful time to be on earth. While there is much that is wrong in the world today, there are many things that are right and good. There are marriages that make it, parents who love their children and sacrifice for them, friends who care about us and help us, teachers who teach. Our lives are blessed in countless ways." Reading that testified to me that despite the fact that I haven't had great friends in the past, I certainly do now.  They have been by my side through the thick and thin of this all.  There was something to be grateful for.  And in that same paragraph it said "there are marriages that make it" two beautiful things to be grateful for in one paragraph! I felt like I hit the jack pot with that paragraph alone.           
      
     I know that when I look for things to be grateful for it stops me from focusing on all of the negative that surrounds me.   There can be so much to feel gloom and doom over.  I know that I can't allow myself to sink into that gloom and doom.  It will over take me, and I will be no good as a mother, a wife, a friend, a sister, or a daughter.  "We can lift ourselves and others as well when we refuse to remain in the realm of negative thought and cultivate within our hearts an attitude of gratitude". Thomas S. Monson         
      
     Being grateful in our circumstances is an act of faith in God. It requires that we trust God and hope for things we may not see but which are true.  By being grateful, we follow the example of our beloved Savior, who said, “Not my will, but thine, be done.  True gratitude is an expression of hope and testimony. It comes from acknowledging that we do not always understand the trials of life but trusting that one day we will. President Uchtdorf 
         
     I have so many things to be grateful for, and in my dark moments the ones that I reflect on the most are my 4 beautiful healthy children, and the life I have been given.  I know that when we "set aside the bottle of bitterness and lift instead the goblet of gratitude can find a purifying drink of healing, peace, and understanding."President Uchtdorf 
     
     If ingratitude be numbered among the serious sins, then gratitude takes its place among the noblest of virtues. President Thomas S Monson

I fight everyday to maintain an Attitude of Gratitude

Lots of love,
Cherae